As I’ve mentioned a few times throughout this blog (including right here in the about section), I’m both queer and on the autism spectrum. And while I’ve certainly discussed both of these items extensively, I’ve always found it challenging to discuss how they can intersect. I’ve hunted around the blogosphere a bit over the last year or so for other queer folks on the spectrum, but while there seem to be a fair number of trans folks in the ASD world, queer women are a little less common, and there are even fewer (read: almost none) writing about how their experiences with autism and queer life interact.
So, I was both surprised and delighted to come across this wonderful (and quite comprehensive) piece from Emily Brooks on Autostraddle. I’m certainly not going to rob Emily of much-deserved page views by quoting large swaths of her article, but a few things really hit home for me (and gave me a sense of being not such an outlier). This bit in particularly feels like it came right from my own head:
Picking someone up not only requires recognizing flirtation in others and being aware of what signals you’re sending, but also the confidence to keep interacting after years of disappointment, combating the weight of past social failure. In some ways, I’ve got less practical knowledge than people half my age.
I hope a piece like this starts a dialogue on autism spectrum folks within the queer community and inspires more of us to share our stories and unique experiences, and perhaps helps some neurotypical folks gain some insight into the unique frustrations faces by queer autistic women.